How Technology is Eradicating Natural Male-Female Relationships

We stand at a critical juncture in human social evolution. The digital realm isn’t just changing how men and women interact. it’s systematically destroying the very possibility of genuine connection and eradicating natural male female relationships.

What began as convenient tools for communication, have morphed into relationship destroying online platforms. These are collectively fostering alienation, breeding resentment. Unfortunately, they are now cultivating what may become history’s most dysfunctional and isolated generation.

The Digital Dating Apocalypse

Gone are the days when courtship unfolded organically for example through shared experiences, mutual friends, or simple real-world chemistry. Today’s romantic landscape resembles a dystopian marketplace. One where human beings are reduced to swiping commodities of perfection and attractiveness.

Dating apps, the supposed solution to modern loneliness, have become factories of disposability. Matches are collected like trading cards. But are discarded at the first sign of any imperfection.

Over time the psychological toll can be catastrophic on all who enter this online dating app arena. Men, facing rejection rates that would break even the most confident soul, either become desperate approval seekers, or retreat into bitter isolation.

Women, overwhelmed by a deluge of low-effort suitors, outright harassment and exposure to sexual harassment content, develop defensive postures which could make genuine connection nearly impossible.

The result? An entire generation that views the opposite sex not as potential partners, but as adversaries in a zero-sum game of emotional and psychological survival.

While this blog focuses on adults, teens experience the same. So what are they learning from their negative experiences from a very early age about potential partners?

The Algorithmic Radicalization Pipeline

Perhaps more disturbing than the destruction of dating, is how technology actively cultivates hostility between the sexes. Social media algorithms, those insidious architects of modern thought, have perfected the art of feeding male insecurity and transforming it into outright misogyny.

Young men struggling with loneliness don’t find compassion online. They are now funnelled into radicalizing rabbit holes. One moment they’re watching self-improvement content; a few clicks later, they are immersed in forums preaching that all women are manipulative hypergamous creatures.

The algorithm rewards engagement, and nothing engages like rage. Thus begins the descent from normal frustration, in to full-blown woman-hating extremism.

Meanwhile, women’s feeds fill with equally toxic content. Endless horror stories of male violence. Warnings to trust no man, and narratives portraying all heterosexual relationships as inherently oppressive.

The digital echo chambers on both sides grow louder, more extreme, and more mutually incomprehensible. All this achieves is a complete lack of faith and trust. Complete disillusionment, and isolation.

The online world has created many twisted and incredibly narcistic individuals. The harm being inflicted by males on females is very real, and has to be acknowledged. As the gap in basic trust and ability in forming a safe real world relationship diminishes and isolation expands, it creates a snowball effect, where technology will again propose a solution.

The Rise of Synthetic Intimacy

As real relationships become more fraught, the tech industry offers an insanely sinister solution. Artificial alternatives that promise all the benefits of human connection, without the messy reality of actual humans.

AI girlfriends now provide customized fantasy partners who never argue, never age, and never say no. Pornography, supercharged by VR and deepfake technology, offers infinite novelty without emotional risk. For a growing number of men, why would you even bother with real women at all, when algorithms can generate the perfect obedient companion.

The consequences are already visible. Clinicians report young men exhibiting what they call “porn-induced sexual dysfunction”. The males eventually develop the inability to become aroused by actual human partners. Their social skills atrophy from disuse, their empathy withers and `results is potentially seriously harmful actions towards females when they act out fantasies without consent in the real world.

Outside of creating a generation of men who may literally be incapable of real intimacy, we may also be creating a whole generation of violent, misogynistic potential sex offenders.

An important point to note here also, is the substantial rise in the number of the female sex offenders who are developing relationships with preteen and teen males in their classrooms in recent years. This appears to be a literally new phenomena not previously witnessed at these levels before.

All of this leads to a point where we are now facing a serious problem which impacts society as a whole.

The Demographic Death Spiral

This fallout extends far beyond the potential for individual loneliness. Across the developed world, marriage rates have plummeted to historic lows and birth rates have started to collapse below replacement level. In other words, there are more people dying than being born. Should such a trend continue at its current pace, it could cause a global decline in humanity, the likes of which has only previously been seen as a consequence of some form of global tragedy like the Spanish Flu. The difference being this will be a slow and meandering process most probably even notice.

South Korea’s fertility rate stands at a catastrophic 0.72 . The lowest in recorded human history. 0.75 remains significantly below the replacement rate of 2.1 children per woman needed to maintain a stable population without immigration. South Korea still faces an unprecedented demographic crisis requiring deep-seated societal and policy changes to avert severe long-term consequences

China’s population is shrinking at unprecedented speed. Even traditionally family-oriented cultures like Italy and Spain are seeing dramatic declines.

Ireland is no different. While there has never been any definitive research to explore the connection between access WiFi and pornography, certainly it is an issue that we have spoken to folks in the CSO here in Ireland about a number of years ago at a conference. At the time the individual was fascinated by the proposal that online access may be causing the decline in birth rates.

Currently, Ireland has a 2024 Birth Rate Registered per 1,000 Population of 10.0. In 2012 it was 15.6. This is a hugely significant statistical decrease. Especially, when the death rates in Ireland are currently in 2024 at 35,173, which represents 6.5 per 1000 population. We collectively need to realise that we are actually edging closer to a point where more people dying, than being born.

We need to change our entire approach to this issue

This problem isn’t just about changing our social values. It’s about resolving the fundamental breakdown of current male and female relations.

Both young and older folks currently view each other with suspicion, and or, outright hostility. All are seeking attention and fame online world, with no real actual genuine interaction.

When technology provides synthetic alternatives to real intimacy, then very idea of lifelong commitment seems either impossible, or undesirable.

The result leaves a civilization that rather than evolves, simply disintegrates.

A Path Forward?

Reversing this tide requires radical action on multiple fronts:

Digital Detoxification

• We must regulate the algorithmic amplification of gender hostility and hold platforms accountable for their radicalization pipelines.

Real-World Reconnection

• Schools and communities need to prioritize in-person socialization, teaching young people the lost art of face-to-face interaction.

Cultural Course Correction

• Media and entertainment must stop profiting from gender warfare and start modelling healthy relationships.

Technological Boundaries 

• AI companionship and hyper-realistic porn require urgent ethical scrutiny before they permanently rewire human sexuality.

Back in the day

My Grandfather once told me how he would cycle 50 miles to go to a showband event in Ireland back in the day. All the gents on one side of the hall all the ladies on the other. Once the music started there would be a sprint to ask a lady to dance.

Back in those days people actually danced, spoke to each other, enjoyed the company. Possibly planned to meet again. It obviously worked. If not I would not be here typing this.

In the 90’s we had the slow dance, the last 15 minutes of the night to try get one on one with a potential partner. If you got a dance and were fortunate to walk someone home, even if it was 5 mile or more you did it. No doubt the ladies being walked home at the time boasted to their friends, “he walked me home!”.

Genuinely, the online world has taken old morality and the potential to meet someone out the window. It has been replaced with online feedback validation, through likes and shares.

Us as adults and advocates have to realise we genuinely need to pull our loved ones and kids back from this.

The stakes couldn’t be higher. We’re not just fighting for better relationships , we’re actually fighting for the survival of meaningful human connection. And possibly the entire existence of the human race itself.

In the greater scheme of things, we have done so much damage already, AI has to do very little to finish us off.

THE DIGITAL AGE PROMISED TO BRING US TOGETHER. LEFT UNCHECKED, IT MAY LEAVE US FOREVER ALONE.